Exodus Says It’s No Miracle Cure – Well, Fuckin’ DUH!

Fionola Meredith of The Irish Times, “I love Jesus (but not in a gay way)” (via Truth Wins Out)writes about Exodus’ Alan Chambers’ coming visit to Northern Ireland for a “pray away the gay” conference —woo-hoo!  Chambers makes his tacit admission that “conversion therapy” just doesn’t work … and I say, “DUH!”   The whole article is a good read … (emphasis mine):

Chambers admits that the faith-based approach advocated by Exodus isn’t a miracle cure: “While some do absolutely see an eradication over time of their same-sex struggles, most see a lessening. Some see no change whatsoever. In my case, I did experience a great shift in my attractions . . . and when I met my wife, Leslie, the connection I felt with her was unmistakable – a deep unselfish love, very different than the selfish, self-focused lust/love I’d had for the men I’d fallen for.”

[face/palm] … where to begin?  First, congratulations, seriously, on finding that special someone … you know, like everybody else wants to do (even if that special someone is *gasp* the same sex).  And, it must take some kind of honesty to admit that the scam therapy doesn’t work, but why keep pushing it?  Oh, yeah, money.  O.K., so yeeeah, we know that heterosexual men and women never-ever marry for lust, or convenience, or status, or any other selfish reason … </sarcasm>  Of course, they do it all the time.  It’s also very sad and too bad that your life has been vapid and selfishly motivated.  But — speak for yourself.  This business of equating your lives to all gay people, this ‘all gay equals bad’, and ‘all hetero equals good’ really rubs me the wrong way.  I know people, both gay and straight, who are wonderful people, and some who ain’t so ‘wonderful’.

So doesn’t he ever feel tempted to go back to his old gay ways? “I am human and humans struggle. But the temptation for me is the same as it would be for any husband.” In coming to Ireland, Chambers says he hopes to “share an honest story about a man who once was lost but now is found. There are people in need of the same hope that I found; people who want to put God above their sexuality”.

… um, but dood … “any husband” of a woman doesn’t lust after other men.

British journalist Patrick Strudwick went undercover in a conversion program run by an associate of the disgraced sleezebag Iris Robinson.  Some more excerpts below (emphasis mine) but the whole article is very worth the read:

Having gone undercover to receive treatment from Miller, Strudwick describes the experience as harmful and disturbing. “There is a spectrum in conversion therapy: at the most damaging end you get people performing exorcisms, at the other end you have well-meaning naive types who don’t really know what to do,” says Strudwick. “Then you have people in the middle like Miller … looking at your relationship with your mother, whether you had a distant father. There’s the assumption that something went wrong in your upbringing. They go on a trauma hunt, trying to find something to pin it on, whether it’s your parents or peer bullying. I was also given advice on how to interrupt and analyse sexual thoughts. And there’s an emphasis on fraternal social contact in order to fulfil your needs so you don’t act out. It’s all about building up your masculinity; the assumption is that if you’re gay, you’re not masculine enough.

In my view, they look for what they already believe is there and then they find it.”

When approached by The Irish Times to respond to these allegations, Paul Miller indicated through an intermediary that although he wished to speak out he was unable to comment due to the impending GMC hearing.

The scam relies on the “patient” being well-indoctrinated to believe that they are broken and sinful, instead of finding out the real problems going on.

In an article published in 2008, after his link with Robinson was made public, he insisted he was not trying to “cure” homosexuality. He said that therapists such as himself “do not assume homosexuality is a mental disorder nor do we assume that all patients should seek to change their orientation. We simply treat those who ask for help with unwanted same-sex attraction . . . Our clients are free to retain their homosexual identity or to change in favour of heterosexual identity . . . Despite what our detractors say, [warning: falsehoods ahead] based on sound professional ethics, robust scientific research and clear results with our own clients, we are on very solid ground indeed when we say that we can help those people with unwanted same-sex attraction who wish to change.”

But, but … it is not based on “robust scientific research” … every professional psychiatric and pediatric organization has denounced these quacks in writing; they cannot even get published in real scientific journals.  They have to pay their own vanity publishers.  They have no “clear results” with anybody!  And they admit it, then say they’re not really trying to convert anyone, and that it probably won’t work, but then turn right around and say it does, so we’ll scam you for the money anyway!  WTF?!

PSYCHOLOGIST ROGER BAILEY considers reparative therapy to be “totally out of order. I have faced this situation clinically, and my first response is to find out why the person feels so distressed that they want to change who they are. I had a guy once who said that if you tell me I’m gay I will kill myself. I said, okay, no matter what happens, I won’t say you’re gay. Let’s just try to work out who you are as a human being first.’ As a clinical professional, your religious choices must be quite separate. You can be a priest or you can be a psychologist. You can’t be both.”

Exactly!  Religion has got to be kept out of counseling.  Religious idiots give the worst goddamn advice; most of these people are not even professionally qualified in psychology, psychiatry, counseling, or any other related field.  If they did not hide behind the veil of religion, they would not be allowed to practice this damaging, damning “therapy”.  End of article:

Concerned at the growth of conversion practices in the North, gay rights activists in the Republic are working with the College of Psychiatry of Ireland to develop guidelines for practitioners. But there’s disquiet within some gay Christian circles too. That’s why Changing Attitudes Ireland, a network which campaigns for the full acceptance of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people in Irish churches, has organised its own counter-event to protest at Alan Chambers’s visit. They have invited Wayne Besen – founder of Truth Wins Out, an organisation which attempts to debunk the “ex-gay” industry – to give a talk in Belfast this week.

Besen claims that “Exodus is targeting Ireland and other countries because they have been thoroughly debunked and discredited in America. Their antiquated efforts are rejected by every respected medical and mental health organisation and they have left a trail of hurt and suffering. Having failed at home they are now looking for fertile territory abroad where they can exploit desperate and vulnerable people and profit from their pain.” Mike Davidson, of Core Issues, says he welcomes the debate, and he’s happy for those who hold radically differing views to participate in the Chambers event: “This issue has become very strident, polarised on both sides. We need to find common ground.”

Davidson, and his fellow ex-gay activists, seek to portray themselves as offering a non-prescriptive Christian pathway out of guilt and despair. Others see it as an offensive, actively harmful process, rooted in shame and sin, which pathologises homosexuality, and is anyway bound to fail. When it comes to ‘praying away the gay’, the prospect of consensus seems remote.

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